Love is Love

By: Jefferson Acala

Unveiling the Story

Love wins! These were the words shouted by the members of the LGBT community way back June 26, 2015. Cheers coming from same sex couples and supporters of this advocacy waving lots of rainbow flags and banners with the Human Rights Campaign’s equal sign filled the façade of the United States Supreme Court after it ruled that same sex marriage is a legal right of all Americans. This allowed same sex couples to be one, accompanied by the legal consequences that it has. They now enjoy the effects of marriage, including all benefits and the recognition that they are indeed married couples, like the heterosexual ones.

Image from CNN
Image from CNN

This decision has been made after petitioners, headed by Jim Obergefell, asked for equal dignity in the eyes of the law, which rooted from their hope that the Constitution will grant them this fundamental right to marry. Obergefell, the lead petitioner, filed the suit because he was not allowed to put his name on his late husband John Arthur’s death certificate after Arthur died, reason why he gave his all for this fight against indignity.

According to BBC, one of the demonstrators, Jordan Monaghan, called his mother from his mobile phone during the proclamation turned celebration, and said, “Hey mom, I’m at the Supreme Court. Your son can have a husband now.”

Image from BBC

The decision was made possible by five justices, lead by Justice Anthony Kennedy. He wrote:

“Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than they once were.”

In a dissent, Justice Antonin Scalia attacked the Court’s “threat to American democracy.” Quoting another dissenter, Chief Justice John Roberts:

“If you are among the many Americans—of whatever sexual orientation—who favor expanding same-sex marriage, by all means celebrate today’s decision. Celebrate the achievement of a desired goal. Celebrate the opportunity for a new expression of commitment to a partner. Celebrate the availability of new benefits. But do not celebrate the Constitution. It had nothing to do with it.”

Nonetheless, the landmark decision turned the sorrows of the LGBT community to smiles after their battle for this right for years. As former President Barack Obama has put it, it was a victory for America. “When all Americans are treated as equal, we are all more free,” he said. The supporters who sang the National Anthem have invigorated this statement, they cheered and clapped as they sang, United States is the land of the free. Obama also said that Americans should be very proud because small acts of courage slowly made an entire country realize that indeed, love is love, that members of the LGBT community should be treated as equals, hence strengthening the society.

Onto the Repercussions

Years may have passed but the significance of such proclamation flourishes. It stays in the consciousness of people for so long, and there are a lot of reasons why it happens. First, the LGBT community is not just present in the United States. Wherever you go, there are lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders. The decision, which was made in the United States, is a good signal for all the members of the said community all over the world, that their fight for equality is little by little paying off. It is but undeniable that its effect to the world is huge due to the economic standing of the United States. The decision sparked hope on the minds of the members of the LGBT community all over the globe, knowing the fact that in each country, there are members who fight for the same right. It is but a fact that not all courts have granted this right to those who aspire for it. The LGBT community is not just fighting for this right of getting married in the eyes of the law, they also aspire for this basic right of being treated as equals, of getting rid of discrimination against the members of the said community. In the Philippines, the said decision gave hope to the members of the LGBT community. One concrete example is the fight headed by Geraldine Roman, the first transgender elected congresswoman. She continues to fight for the legalization of Anti-Discrimination Bill that prohibits all varieties of sexual orientation and gender identity-based discrimination. As an overview, any violators will be punished with a fine of P100,000 to P500,000 or imprisonment from one to six years. As of this writing, the SOGIE Equality Bill is on the Rules Committee, according to Congresswoman Roman, the status which continues to give hope to the members of the LGBT community in the Philippines that their aspirations will really come to reality.

Image from Geraldine Roman’s Facebook account
Image from Geraldine Roman’s Facebook account

Young minds also expressed their hopes that, just like in the United States, equality for the members of the said community may be granted, not pertaining to the same sex marriage approval here in the Philippines, because it is undeniable that it is somehow far from becoming a reality, but the basic right of getting respected, of being equal with the heterosexuals. These young minds also expressed their desire through an LGBT pride march. Going back, the first LGBT-related bill in the Philippines, House Bill 2684, was submitted on August 1995, which aimed to acknowledge the third sex as a sector. Four years after, the country’s initial LGBT lobby cluster, the Lesbian and Gay Legislative Advocacy Network Philippines (LAGABLAB-Pilipinas) was formally launched. A year after, the first Anti-Discrimination Bill was filed by Akbyan Representative Etta Rosales in the House of Representatives and Senator Miriam Defensor-Santiago in the Senate. Amidst the removal of President Estrada from office, such bill vanished, hugely affected by Rep. Benny Abante, leader of the House of Committee on Human Rights, a former pastor who used his position to dam the said bill. It was then followed by the passing of three bills in line with the same desire of fighting discrimination, which unfortunately, were all trashed off. The landmark decision in the United States greatly affected the sparking of hope on the minds of the members of the LGBT community and advocates to fight for their rights.

Scrutinizing the Irony

Almost a year after the approval of same sex marriage in the United States, it is but ironic that a crime involving the members of the LGBT community occurred. An American-born man who pledged allegiance to ISIS gunned down 49 people and wounded around 53 people at a gay nightclub in Orlando. This, by far, is the deadliest mass shooting in the United States and the nation’s worst terror attack since 9/11, authorities said, stating it from a report by CNN. According to former American President Barack Obama, the said attack, aside from being an act of terror, is an act of hate, hate directed to the members of the LGBT community, a heartbreaking day for all lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders. There was also a message posted in Arabic on a dark web site associated with the ISIS news agency Amaq which said, “the armed attack that targeted a gay night club in the city of Orlando in the American state of Florida and that bore more than a 100 killed and wounded was carried out by an Islamic state fighter.”

Despite the fact that the killer Omar Mir Seddique Mateen, was shot and killed by the police, the terror continues. The cited event is a proof that despite the legalization of same sex marriage in United States, discrimination and violence towards the LGBT community continues. Same sex marriage may have allowed same sex couples to be united in the eyes of the law, but there are still people, Mateen for example, who could do things, just to get rid of these lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders, for they think these people do not deserve a space in this world, that these people commit actions which are against humankind, leading to acts which even their innocent lives would be at stake. The legalization of same sex marriage is not the end of the fight. Attacks to the LGBT community in totality gives a clear message that the LGBT community needs a greater recognition of rights. In the United states, there is a law that punishes acts against the LGBT community, and congressmen have passed bills to make the penalty harsher, following the mentioned hate crime. In the Philippines, the equality bill is still on its way to becoming a law. According to Danton Remoto, chairman emeritus of Ang Ladlad, an LGBT partylist, discrimination of the LGBT community includes limitation of rights when it comes to employment, academe, health care, and even adoption. Local governments implement ordinances to stop these, but, according to Remoto, these are not enough. Ang Ladlad is one of the various groups that fight for the enactment of the Anti-Discrimination Bill as a law. The partylist supports LGBT businesses, offers support for HIV/AIDS-related cases, and aims for the criminalization of any act of discrimination towards the LGBT community. For the old members of the community, Ang Ladlad envisions to have a center wherein their needs could be provided. These goals will be nearer to becoming a reality and these projects will be wider in scope only upon the legalization of the Anti-Discrimination Bill. Considering the impact of America on the culture of the Filipino people, the approval of same sex marriage there gave light to the LGBT advocates, that the equality bill in the Philippines will soon be approved. The cited news will not die in the consciousness of the masses for sure, specifically for the members of the LGBT community, just like their hope for the total recognition of their rights against discrimination and violence, which will never perish.

New Media Supremacy

Media plays a major role in sustaining the longevity of the said news in the consciousness of the masses. With the existence of social media, news is now accessible everywhere, everytime. News is just a click away, which makes news stay longer in the minds of the people, accessibility which allows people to not just consume the news, but create repercussions out of it. Not long after the United States ruled that the same marriage is legal, social and mobile applications spread the news and the pride. Facebook gave users a rainbow filter on their profile picture and a lot of people joined the wave of rainbow-inspired profile pictures. Even Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg joined the trend. It enabled people to show their support and love to the LGBT community, all over the globe. The netizens also resorted to Twitter to express their happiness brought forth by the decision. According to Talkwalker in a report from Adweek, within the first hour of the Supreme Court’s decision, the #lovewins hashtag received 284,730 mentions, and 60,727 unique tweets, the #SCOTUSMarriage hashtag received 88,872 mentions, and 20,375 unique tweets, and the #MarriageEquality hashtag saw 63,968 mentions, and 63,968 unique tweets. Brands also expressed their support to the community on Twitter. The top three most successful brand tweets came from Starbucks, The Sims and American Airlines.

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Twitter also joined the movement by adding a rainbow heart to any tweet with the hashtag #LoveWins. The White House also expressed its glee over the decision after it changed its Facebook and Twitter profile pictures with a touch of rainbow, signifying the success of the LGBT community. Aside from these trends, news all over mainstream media and news sites spread.

The presence of new media allows participatory civics, which refers to forms of civic engagement that use digital media as a core component and embrace a post-informed citizen model of civic participation, according to Ethan Zuckerman. The millenials who use social media almost all the time, have a higher tendency to be involved to these discussions, to express what they have inside, and for some, to just be part of the mainstream. The changing of profile picture to having a rainbow filter and the expression of one’s support and bliss over the decision through social media is a form of participation of a person, in particular a netizen, to the issues surrounding the world. Through the presence of new media, it becomes easy for people to express and voice out their thoughts and opinions, because for some, it is simply not good to feel helpless and ineffective. It allows the formation of groups composed of members with the same mindset incredibly easy. Thanks to the presence of new media for making the event more impactful through the voice expressed by the people.

Image from CNBC

5 versus 4. 5 voted for the legalization of same sex marriage, 4 expressed their dissent. This division of votes for the legalization of same sex marriage in the United States also signifies the divide among people on viewing and treating the LGBT community. No matter what your stand is, the members of this community, lesbians, gay, bisexuals, and transgenders will continue fighting, will surely endure the pain of violence and discrimination. To those who oppose this union, your opinion is respected, but hopefully, you pay the same respect to those who believe on it, because at the end of the day, no one could tell a person what he or she should feel. No matter what, love is love.


7 thoughts on “Love is Love

  1. First, I must say that the blog is very well written. I love how the topics are well discussed in each sub-topic.
    #Lovewins is a assurance of the belief that ordinary people can do extraordinary things. Everybody deserves to be equal under the law as it should be. I just hope people will scratch off “gay marriage” in their vocabulary. Marriage is marriage.

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  2. “…equality for the members of the said community may be granted, not pertaining to the same sex marriage approval here in the Philippines, because it is undeniable that it is somehow far from becoming a reality”

    Hey Jeff, among all of the points you raised, I found these lines very interesting. I do agree that the approval of same-sex marriage here in the Philippines would be ‘far from becoming reality’. For one, this country has been rooted and been influenced by the Catholic church. Certain value systems and the core of their Religious teachings cannot be easily swayed by laws inherent of these types of content and stipulations. One cannot simply come up to the church and protest that “love is love!, let gay men marry gay men, let transgender men marry men, etc.” The so-called Philippine “Catholic Church” is in itself constituted by HYPOCRITES, of people who preach about love, and becoming righteous when they themselves are reflective of violating the things they preach and still see society nowadays as if it is still living in biblical times. I do respect their religion, and the values that they teach about the love for humankind, but I just cannot stand people who runs this church. This separation between church and the state/nation-state has always been shaky and complex. I believe that this is one of the many reasons why the same-sex marriage approval here in this country will never ever happen. Ever.

    On the one hand, what is also interesting is the sort of ‘awakening’ of other parts of society as in the case of the US Supreme Court last 2015 approving of the same-sex marriage and probably for the other countries who did the same. This ‘awakening’ signifies the lengths of how far societies can now be more open and diverse, if not further strengthening and flourishing one’s own cultural narratives in ways of living, thinking, and socializing.. We now truly live in the post-truth era where our conception of what is true before is now being openly challenged with the advent of a new kind of globalization fostered by new technologies and faster means of sharing knowledge and even cultures through present-day new media..

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    1. If I may butt in… I agree with what you said: “The so-called Philippine “Catholic Church” is in itself constituted by HYPOCRITES, of people who preach about love, and becoming righteous when they themselves are reflective of violating the things they preach and still see society nowadays as if it is still living in biblical times. I do respect their religion, and the values that they teach about the love for humankind, but I just cannot stand people who runs this church. This separation between church and the state/nation-state has always been shaky and complex. I believe that this is one of the many reasons why the same-sex marriage approval here in this country will never ever happen. Ever.”

      But I love our Pope Francis because he is radical and progressive. I hope his outlook rubs off in our Church.

      Here, you guys may want to read these:

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      1. May I also be included in this discussion? Hahahaha.

        I am not demeaning any religion here, believe in what you believe in, have faith in who or what you want, but it makes me CRINGE whenever I see an argument online where a person is using the word of God (bible) against a gay person when one of the first things I have learned from Christian Living class back in kindergarten class was to love one another as you love yourself, or do unto others what you want others to do unto you. I mean, you have technology at the palm of your hands, but you still use it to shove your beliefs to other people? Talaga nga naman.

        Like what the late Senator Miriam Defensor-Santiago said, “The problem of an argument that is based on God is, it is the last resort of a bad debater.”

        Remember two weeks ago when our equality champs are proposing the equality bill at the Rules Committee and Manny Pacquiao was swiping his bible card again? I do agree with Paul that having same-sex civil union in the Philippines is still a long way to go, but I am happy that our SOGIE has already been approved by the House of Representatives. Praying that it will enacted in the 17th Congress.

        It is also important to note that majority of the religious people are confused between same-sex marriage and same-sex civil union. Even news outlets deliberately interchange those two terms because they know the former will trigger a lot of religious people to comment EVEN MORE CRINGEWORTHY arguments. Syempre, website/Facebook page traffic din.

        Again, we are not asking for church marriage, we want civil union.

        Meanwhile, andami ko nanamang sinabi, here’s a video of Foo Fighters rick-rolling the Westboro Baptist Church:

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      2. Hey Kimsamyeah (I like the word play on your handle) and Nickky! This is really interesting whenever the talk about religion (esp involving the Catholic church in the PH). Opens up a lot more issues to talk about. That news about Manny Pacquiao also made me irritated some of my nerve endings. Every time he says something like “ang sabi sa Bible….” I too cringe at the supposed moral “facts” he is putting on within the bounds of legal and civil issues. May I just share that this is also one of the primary reasons why I switched my personal faith through Nichiren Daishonin’s Buddhism about more than three years ago. I just got weary and uninspired of the catholic priests imposing people to do this, and don’t do that “kasi ang sabi sa ibanghelyo ay…” and all that jazz. And yet again I am not condemning the religion itself and we can also argue that this may depend on the priest as well etc. In my view, though I know this wouldn’t be easy, there is a need to dive into a re-examining, (or amendments perhaps?), or a paradigm shift of their teachings as to how would these apply today–considering we live in a society that has a division of state and church, mediation of new technologies, and the ‘awakening’ of new forms of ‘mass consciousness’ and post-truth enlightenment, and among others, a plethora of other societal issues.

        I could go on all day sharing my views on this, but we need beer bottles for us to brawl. 🙂

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  3. Hi Jeff! I definitely agree with you that love is love 🙂

    While reading your blog, I can’t help but be happy about our society. We are indeed in the process of change, I have many LGBT friends that were also happy that somehow, a place in this world accepted them for who they are.

    I salute the United States Supreme Court for their approval of the said law. For me, this is actually a game-changer since many countries (let’s admit it) look up to them. Who knows, countries might follow their footsteps!

    However, despite of having many supporters for this, some people are just evil! They do not even deserve to be called as “people/human”. I am talking about the horrific incidents where a devil killed many members of the LGBT community in a bar (yes, I also heard the news that you were talking about and I can’t help but be sad about it).

    To be honest, we are somehow far from having this law in our country. There are many debates about this topic.

    For me, among all this, people should just respect the beliefs of other people. Let’s just be happy that our LGBT friends are happy. Let them love who they want to love.

    Also, I am really overwhelmed on how the social media platforms supported this decision and how people used social media in showing their support.

    I am a fan of anything that has something to do with rainbows! Thus, I love the LGBT community.

    Love lots,
    Donna 🙂

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